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Post by Trilly on Sept 14, 2011 21:48:50 GMT 10
Damien is an ambassador for this fantastic cause. www.ruok.com.au As we know, he appeared on the Kerry Anne Kennelly Show this morning to advertise RUOK Day, tomorrow, Thursday 15th October . He also wrote on his FB page "tomorrow I'll be asking someone I care about "RUOK?" Who will you be asking?"Such a simple question can go a long way in suicide prevention. Remember, Lifeline 13 11 14 and Beyond Blue www.beyondblue.org.au are there to provide information and assistance as well to anyone feeling concerned about a friend or family member. Suicide call back service: 1300 659 467
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Post by princess1 on Sept 15, 2011 5:52:05 GMT 10
I care about everyone here so
R U OK?
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Post by Trilly on Sept 15, 2011 14:44:37 GMT 10
Yes, I am. Nice one, Princey. I wasn't about ten years ago though It took a friend of mine asking if I was OK, and refusing to accept "yes" as an answer to help me. What she didn't know before she asked was that I had planned the location and the means to suicide and I was not far from doing it. I was deeply depressed, lost in a black, paralyzing hole and she recognized it. That day we called my GP on her insistence, and my recovery began the next day when she drove me to his surgery. She saved my life by being a friend. That's the power of this conversation and that's why it's so important. R U OK?
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Post by Annys always here..lol on Sept 15, 2011 14:57:39 GMT 10
R U OKThis is a wonderful Cause and hoping that more and more people get on board! I understand where you are coming from Trilly and you were not alone as I believe many of us have had that time confronting us..I know I have also seriously considered ending it and I didn't have someone ask if I was okay as I was as usual far away from friends and family and I know now that I am and was strong enough to move away from those feelings and I am truly glad that someone was there for YOU. No-one really knows when or how Depression happens but when it does please reach out to anyone for help!
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Post by Trilly on Sept 15, 2011 15:10:56 GMT 10
Anny. Yes, depression is not uncommon, sadly. Many of us have struggled with it , at one time or another. :-/However, when the "black dog" is howling and you're in that dark, deep hole, sometimes reaching out doesn't even occur to you . There's no light at the end of the tunnel, there's only the tunnel. That's why a positive, caring friend asking the right questions can be the dim torchlight which illuminates the gloom for a brief moment, long enough to begin the recovery process, and yes, to show you that you aren't alone. I'm pleased you were able to recover on your own Anny, but sad that no-one was around for you. You aren't alone here, as you know. R U OK Now?
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Post by erinbella on Sept 15, 2011 16:23:43 GMT 10
I think R U OK? is a great cause. Trilly and Anny Yes you are right most of us will suffer from depression at some stage in our lives. I had it really bad about 15 years ago. It was not long after my mother's passing and then everything else seemed to get me down. You just go into this deep dark hole and you cannot see any way of getting out - you just sink deeper and deeper. I lay in bed for a long time and wouldn't eat. I just didn't care about anything - whether I lived or died. I was lucky to have a loving Dad who knew I wasn't okay and needed help. My Dad didn't know what to do and so he asked one of my brothers to take me in for a while and my brother wasn't taking no for an answer. I stayed with him and his daughter for almost a year before I was completely recovered. I will always remember and be grateful for what my Dad and my brother did for me. I think once you suffer depression it always creeps up on you every now and then but I promised myself that I would try never ever to go back to that deep dark place again. So far so good.
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Post by Annys always here..lol on Sept 15, 2011 16:45:04 GMT 10
Thanks Girls...this was a fair while ago now..lol..and now I have all of you Lovely girls to talk to..as sometimes its easier with friends then telling your nearest and dearest..
I am very glad Bella that you had your Dad and your Brother to help you..I had young children at the time and found they kept the worst at bay..as they can't understand why you don't want to get out of bed and fix them breakfast etc..lol.xoxoxo
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Post by Trilly on Sept 15, 2011 16:52:12 GMT 10
Bella. So glad your family were there for you. Yes, you're right. Depression can recur, if you've suffered before. However, hopefully, once we become aware of the signs and symptoms, (perhaps by treatment from a cognitive behavioural therapist, or self-education, or talking to our GP, as I did) we can seek help, if neccessary in the early stages and nip it in the bud. Sometimes medication is indicated too. Help is available, we just need to know how to access it.
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Post by KrisLovesDamien on Sept 15, 2011 17:01:08 GMT 10
I also care about you all! R U OK?Trilly Bella Anny I'm glad you girls are okay now. I haven't had it myself (thankfully) but I have had plenty of close friends who have had depression. One being a friend who I went to school with, he has had it for the last 12 months or so and only just told me now. We had a falling out some months ago and he apologised for everything, saying it was probably the depression which cause him to be horrible. But I obviously didn't know at the time so It all makes sense now, and thankfully he knows he has my support and he is doing okay at the moment. My Best Friend has also had it ... which was absolutely horrible. But again, thankfully she is 100% okay.
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Post by Trilly on Sept 15, 2011 18:01:30 GMT 10
We love you too, Krissy. It's sad that your friends have suffered depression, but a timely reminder that teenagers are often affected too, and that their friends can help by asking this simple question and then maybe pointing them in the right direction, to websites, or helpful adults. Kids Help line: 1800 55 1800 Friends are so important, no matter how we meet. (Even if it's by being massive, massive s )
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Post by plugger on Sept 15, 2011 23:35:39 GMT 10
ROh my gosh! Trilly, Annie Bella, and Kris your friends around your age.........I am glad RUOK day has come about today! All I can say is I am so...so ...so glad you Trills and Annie are still here today to talk about it! it really needs to happen! I mentioned in a post a few weeks ago about my long time, life long school friend ( I might have buzzed over details, as I don't want to sound sad and negative .......on DLO all the time...you guys know what I mean....) her fiancee suicided! They still don't know exactly why! RUOK day, is the best thing that can happen......it just might make the difference. At times we can all have things that change in our lives in a flash....and I mean a flash.....that can effect us and we can experience some really hard times emotionally. So iI think its been really good RUOK day today, because I think it is bringing more awareness, and Trilly, Annie, and Bella I am so glad you are all ok! Gosh this is something we all as a community should never to be ashamed about! i hope awareness saves lives and eases pain endured by so many loved ones. Yes I am ok, if anyone is wondering...its been a Crappy...Crappy year.....but I have not had anything like many others have had and I am to busy looking after Family , Dad and and Friends at moment. Distraction I call it! One thing I have found very rewarding and beneficial to me is distraction! What is distraction....being busy.....helping others in any way simple or big......the pleasure it gives me (and the distraction) to help or just do something, anything for anyone else is great therapy for me personally! Let RUOK Day remain and more awareness....it is like a cancer.......its there.......to many effected and but we just don't know about this one like cancer....! Its the happy face, or mask that none of of us detect. I am all for educating our teenagers as they grow up that help is there, and we all make mistakes, things can be fixed. I think the days of covering up are long gone! Honesty and information can equal protection. Sometimes we all need help, that might just be an ear to talk to, lets be there RUOK? ? ALWAYS! SO I HOPE YOU ARE ALL OK ON DLO! Deb is the same age as me, found her soul mate (yes late in life!) no boyfriends etc...to be married...and guess what.... her wedding date is Mums first anniversary! Its so not fair, she is so beautiful and has never hurt anyone. So I have honestly had computer problems, but between spending time with Deb and her family and looking after mine I have not been on DLO!
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Post by plugger on Sept 15, 2011 23:39:20 GMT 10
I hope everyone is "Okay " today and always!
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Post by Roxy on Sept 16, 2011 7:37:11 GMT 10
WOW, as Plugger said, I'm also glad that RUOK day has come about and that you are all still here to talk about it with us. It's so great to hear that Damien is an Ambassador for such a needed cause, which obviously is so close to alot of our own hearts. Thank you all for sharing your own personal stories with us, it's not an easy subject to talk about, whether it's happening now or happened in the past. I hope RUOK day brinkgs alot of awareness and helps people like yourselves to open up about depression and to talk about their own feelings of despair. The more people who can admit to having or being depressed will hopefully help people in the future. Love you guys
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Post by olddantucker on Sept 16, 2011 10:33:46 GMT 10
I'm so Rugby World Cup oriented at the moment that I misread the headline and wondered why Damien would front a campaign to bring back rucking. ;D
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Post by Trilly on Sept 16, 2011 11:01:40 GMT 10
I'm so Rugby World Cup oriented at the moment that I misread the headline and wondered why Damien would front a campaign to bring back rucking. ;D Trust you! Have the All Blacks choked yet?
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